Practical Mindfulness Tips To Shift Your Mood

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Practical Mindfulness Tips To Shift Your Mood

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“Fear is the cheapest room in the house. I would like to see you living in better conditions.” – Hafiz

you notice how quickly stress can spiral into anxiety? Maybe we notice that we’re almost out of bread, and wonder when we’ll have time to pick it up,
and before we know it we’re in a tailspin over how overwhelmed and rushed we feel, how we’ll never catch up with all the things we have to do, how
we never get our own needs met, how unappreciated we feel.

That can make us feel so bad inside that maybe we lash out at the next person who annoys us, who might be our child. Or maybe we just stay in a pinched
and anxious mood all morning, sighing or snapping at our kids, off-loading our tension onto them.

Many of us feel this low level fear response — otherwise known as anxiety — so often that the bad moods caused by fear begin to feel normal. They make
us irritable and erode our delight in life, in our children. They make it impossible to be emotionally generous, so our children behave worse. They
trigger doubt about whether the sacrifices of parenting are worth it. All parents wonder struggle occasionally, but when we’re in perpetual stress,
we stop enjoying our children, and it undermines their sense of self-worth.

Most of the time, we don’t even consciously notice the thoughts that start us off down the slippery slope, or the uncomfortable feelings they give rise
to. But when we have a thought that upsets us, our body responds by going into flight, fight or freeze. So we suddenly notice an urgent need to take
action. Any action, just to stop those uncomfortable feelings, to make us feel like we’re doing something to address the situation. Suddenly, we’re
awash in stress neurotransmitters signaling us to get ready for an emergency. So we yell at our kids, snap at our partner, or begin slamming things
around. (That’s fight.) Or we suddenly crave a snack (that’s freeze). Or we take refuge in a screen (that’s flight). 

The actions we take from that place of fear or anxiety are never helpful. They’re designed to alleviate our anxiety, not to address the situation constructively.

Of course, it’s isn’t always stress, with its accompany low-level fear, that drives our bad moods. But sadness and hurt tend to come out in tears, after
which we feel better. Fear most often emerges as lashing out, which is a defense against feeling vulnerable. At a lower, more daily, level, fear manifests
as low grade irritability, self-criticism, perfectionism, annoyance, resentment, judgment of ourselves and others, and general negativity.

You can’t stop your mind from thinking fearful thoughts sometimes. The job of the mind is to watch for danger and to make you appear acceptable (as opposed
to feeling happy). That gives our minds a negativity bias.

But you can commit to a better way of handling low-level fear when it arises, before it spirals out of control. When you notice that creeping

1. Use your Pause Button. 

Train yourself to Stop, Drop (your current agenda, just for now), and Breathe. Three deep conscious breaths will switch off your stress response, and give
you the power to choose how to react to whatever’s in front of you, instead of getting hijacked by the fear.

2. Observe what’s happening in your body.

Don’t get stuck in the story line; in fact, refuse to “think” about whatever is upsetting. Instead, notice the sensations in your body. Tightness? Heaviness?
Be willing to feel that. The secret is that as you welcome those sensations, and breathe into them, they begin to change and the feeling begins to

Still feel upset? That must be a powerful belief system, which you’ve probably reinforced with your thoughts many times. It’s worn a groove in your psyche,
and triggers some big feelings. But don’t worry, you’re already excavating it. Every time you notice those thoughts and the feelings that go with them,
and allow yourself to feel them — BUT — this is crucial — you RESIST TAKING ACTION (which is a distraction from the feelings), you break that neural
chain. Eventually, you won’t even get triggered by those thoughts, and that belief system will no longer feel true.

At this moment, while you’re upset, here’s a power tool to move this process along faster. Be more present. That means you shift your attention from your
mind, back into your body. Breathe deeply. Notice everything your senses are telling you. Notice that as you observe, the part of you that’s observing
gets bigger than those uncomfortable sensations. Your conscious attention is like a light that melts away tension and fear.

3. Open some space to shift out of feeling victimized.

Fear is the worry that we won’t be able to handle something, and it makes us feel powerless and victimized. So one antidote is to claim your power. Once
you’ve spent some time in your body dissolving those stuck patterns, shift the energy.

4. Change your mind.

5. Change your environment.

Still upset, because something in your world really isn’t working for you? Do the first four steps above to empower yourself and shift into a more positive
place. (Actions you take from fear won’t get you to a better place.) Choose love, for yourself and everyone in the situation. Still feel like something
needs to change? Now that you’ve done this work, you’ll have more clarity about how to get where you want to go. Now, take one step toward a better
future. Just one. See what happens.

Hard? Yes. The hardest work we can do. You’re bringing the light of your conscious awareness to your low-grade fears, so you can spin them into the gold
of love. I personally think this is a big part of our life-purpose. But you don’t have to believe that to realize the transformative effects! 

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